Hi! I'm Lindsay Ferrier. You might remember me from a blog called Suburban Turmoil. Well, a lot has changed since I started that blog in 2005. My kids grew up, I got a divorce, and I finally left the suburbs for the heart of Nashville, where I feel like I truly belong. I have no idea what the future will hold and you know what? I'm okay with that. Thrilled, actually. It was time for something totally different.
August 9, 2011
I grew up in a Baptist church in a small North Georgia town.
I grew up believing in a God who was out to get me.
The God I learned about at church watched over me like a hawk, ready to put a black mark beside my name if I argued with my brother or said a bad word or disobeyed my parents. The God I learned about at church was more than willing to send me to hell once too many of those black marks accumulated, where I would burn in anguish for all eternity.
I was baptized at the age of six, simply because I was so terrified of ending up in permanent league with the devil. I still remember the congregation of my church laughing as I swam across the baptismal pool to meet the pastor for my ceremonial dunking. And I still regret now, years later, that my baptism was one of fear and not spiritual rebirth. I’m still a little appalled by my Sunday School teachers and youth leaders for putting that fear in my young heart.
We moved from that town when I was ten and joined a different church, one where I learned that God was about love and not punishment, and that He wanted to redeem me rather than zap me down like a pesky mosquito. Years later, when my children were born, I made a promise to God that I would raise both of my children in the Christian faith- not the faith of my early childhood, but the one I had come to understand as an adult.
Since that time, I have made a tremendous effort to teach them about the true God I feel working in my life today. And I’ve taught them about the Jesus who loved the unlovable, reached out to those scorned by society, and experienced righteous rage from time to time, rather than the simpering, sparkly clean Jesus of badly-written children’s storybooks.
I want my kids to feel the presence of a God who loves and understands them better than anyone, a God who can comfort them in the night when they’re afraid and is ready and waiting to forgive them when they make their inevitable mistakes. I want them to make an effort to be kind, loving and compassionate people not because they’re afraid of going to hell, but because they’re so grateful for all that God has given them, and can’t wait to share His love with others.
It’s not all that easy to convey these beliefs and values to small children, but I’m trying — and that’s why I was really excited to get the opportunity to sign on as a blogger with Tommy Nelson, along with a few of my favorite real-life and online friends.
Tommy Nelson is the children’s division of the Thomas Nelson publishing company. Each month, my fellow Tommy Mommy bloggers and I will be sharing personal stories on the Raising Faithful Kids blog about parenting our children in the Christian faith. I plan to use the space to share ideas I’ve had on teaching my children about God, and I hope you’ll share some of yours as well, whether you’re Christian or of another faith. I love hearing about your traditions and exchanging ideas.
My first post just went up on the Tommy Nelson blog and I hope you’ll read it, and leave a comment if you feel inclined.
And for those of you who are interested in doing an online Beth Moore study with me this fall — YAY. The response has been fantastic, and I think that everyone who participates will get a lot out of it. I’m putting together a schedule this week and will have more details soon.
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Is this your big news? Cool…sounds like a fun venture.
This is not my big news, but it’s news! ;D
Is this the same Tommy Nelson who does shows with Family Life today? I love to listen to the podcasts he is on!
Nope, this is the kids division of Thomas Nelson, the Christian publishing company. 🙂
Love this!! I feel the same way, as I was raised Southern Baptist in Arkansas. The God and Jesus I have come to know and love as an adult in a “bible” church is the one I worship alongside my kids. Congratulations on the opportunity to blog with Tommy Nelson. He is an amazing teacher!
What a cool opportunity! I enjoyed learning more about the development of your faith and how that’s impacted how you’re raising your kids.
Thank you!
My husband and I joke that there should be A ‘recovering baptists anonymous!’
Heading over to check out your post-and right with you on the trickiness of imbuing them with the unshakably secure love of Their Heavenly Father. Headed over to TN now…
Blessings!
Ha! I know that many Baptist churches have changed since the 80s and tried to become more accessible, but man, my childhood was spiritually ROUGH! ;D
I’m glad to read this. I too am a Christian and it bothers me when I hear ppl talk about God like he’s a tyrant. Good for you and I’m glad I found your blog.
Me too, Michelle! Thank you. 🙂
I feel like such an old soul because I often find myself wanting to go back into a time where children were children. When they would play outside & respect & have a healthy fear of their parents. And when parents didn’t just sit their kids infront of something electronic. & i feel a HUGE problem with children today is that they lack foundation. I can go on & on & on about the grace & greatness of god & I can’t wait to give that foundation to my son. Having a relationship with God is the most important thing & i want him to know that if he builds on that relationship & keeps God near than so many blessings will come forth & life really can and will wonderful. Trying at times but wonderful. I soooo admire you L & I’m so happy you do what you do 🙂
I totally agree, and I have seen that lack of foundation in many of the friends and classmates of my stepdaughters over the years. It is very, very troubling.
I was raised in a Southern Baptist church that sounds more like the church you attended after the age of ten. My cousin was raised in a small country baptist church which sounds more like the one you were baptized in (pre- age ten). I have a similar take on God and faith as you do. I will check out your post on the blog right now….
It has been interesting to see the Baptist churches diversify in the last ten or so years. A major one here even dropped the “Baptist” recently, while another got more traditional. I guess there’s something for everyone! 🙂
From one Lindsay to another, thanks for branching out and choosing to include your faith among the many topics included on your blog/site. I read the blogs of many of the big names in Christian womanhood, and while I find them inspiring, I find it hard to relate to them as they seem so good/holy/perfect, and I’m so, well, NOT. You are so much more easy to identify with than they are, and I am thankful to know that there is a real person like me out in Internetland that I can share matters of faith with now.
(I realize that this could come across as saying that you are less “holy” than them and that’s why I like you. That’s not it all all. It is more of your lack of “holier than thou”-ness than lack of holiness that draws me to you.)
I totally get it what you’re saying. I am finally comfortable realizing that I will never be able to live up to the “holier than thou” or even the “I don’t make serious mistakes on a daily basis” perception. Thank you- This comment means a lot to me!
Great post! Often Jesus is misunderstood and it’s great to hear about moms who are rectifying that!
Jenna
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I just wish there was more great children’s literature to reflect that! So far we’ve found The Jesus Storybook Bible and… that’s pretty much it.
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