Who’s Paying the Porn Star Mom? We Are.

Demi Delia and her PR team are hoping her new webcast, which features “hilarious” mishaps from her experiences as a mother, will become an Internet sensation. To that end, e-mails promoting her show and offering interviews with Demi herself have been sent to mom bloggers in hopes that they will write about it. It’s nothing new in terms of online promotion. But there’s one really big problem.

Demi Delia is a porn star.

I interviewed Demi Delia for this week’s newspaper edition of Suburban Turmoil.  The full text of the column is below.

Porn Star Mommy

Everyone knows a mom will do just about anything to feed her family.

Some mothers make ends meet by working from home while their kids sleep. Other moms wait tables or teach school or take on freelance jobs.

And some moms just make porn.

Adult film star Demi Delia is hoping her new Web series, Mommy XXX, will convince viewers to look past her grotesquely swollen lips, basketball-sized breasts and Juvederm injections, and see just another mom doing whatever (or whomever) it takes to provide for her two teenage kids.

I learned about Demi, billed as a “soccer mom who can handle her balls,” after receiving an e-mail promoting her new show.

Hi Lindsay, it read. As a mom, you know it’s tough to juggle a career and a family life. Sony TV’s new web series Mommy XXX follows Demi Delia, a single mom and porn star.

I’ve been pitched a lot of things, but never a porn star. Intrigued, I checked out the Web site and watched several Mommy XXX episodes. I’m pretty open-minded, but Mommy XXX was repulsive, even by my admittedly low TV standards.

In one episode, Demi Delia goes in for her eleventh boob job, despite her children’s protestations. Afterward, her manager complains that her beach ball bosoms are still not big enough. In another episode, she shoots a sex scene in her home, on the family sofa. Ewww! And in a third episode, she takes her teenagers to a porn star party, where scantily clad, Barbie-like blondes jockey for position in front of the camera.

At one point, her 19-year-old son gives his take on Mom’s career.

“Porn stars are just disgusting people. They have no morals,” he says. “I mean, I can speak. I know… They’re just nasty. They carry diseases… I hate porn stars.”

Watching Mommy XXX, I had to wonder, if Demi Delia felt the same fierce protectiveness for her children that I feel for mine, how on earth could she expose them to the porn industry at such a young age? What’s more, how could she allow them to participate in a tasteless Web cast about it?

I decided to send Demi Delia an e-mail, asking if she could answer a few questions for me, mom-to-mom. She agreed.

When I asked Demi why she thought moms would be interested in supporting a Web cast about a porn star, she insisted that her life wasn’t all that different from mine.

“I am a regular mother just like everyone else,” she wrote. “There is a person behind the ‘Pornstar’ and they are just like you and me, they have kids, families, bills and they go through lifes struggles just like everyone else only most of the time being judged.”

Demi made it seem like she was a real life Hester Prynne, bravely making her way through angry mobs of stone-throwing suburbanites.

“I had one experience where one of my daughters girlfriends was no longer allowed to come over to our home because her mother saw me on a Cinemax movie,” she wrote. “She printed out photos that she found from an appearance that my ex husband [“porn legend” Randy Spears] and I took with a couple of fans from the internet. She wrote terrible things about us and announced to the neighborhood that we lived in the area. This was very disturbing that someone could be so cruel (an adult) would do that.”

But while Demi was trying to come off as a silicone-enhanced Donna Reed, I guess I’d seen too much of the Web cast to take her seriously. Even with cameras rolling, there were no heart-to-hearts with her kids to be seen. No groundings. No redeeming hugs. No real mothering whatsoever. Instead, Demi sat around drinking, smoking, primping and comparing chest size with her porn star friends.

But hey. Maybe there was some small nugget of wisdom I could glean from Demi’s sordid tale. My final question to her was simple.

“What advice do you have for moms who are thinking of getting into the porn business?” I asked. “How should they explain their new career to their children?”

“My advice is don’t get into the adult industry, I feel there is no career anymore in it,” Demi wrote back. “Unless you are one of the few picked to be a contract girl it is a short lived career. It’s not worth it! If plan A was be a pornstar, go with plan B.”

Sorry, ladies. The career pool for struggling mothers just got a little bit smaller.